On March 13, 2025, at 11:54 PM PST, we will experience a full moon lunar eclipse in Virgo—the last full moon of the zodiac year that brings transformation, release, and endings. Lunar eclipses are not just any full moon; they signify deep emotional breakthroughs, often leading to pivotal shifts in our lives.
This eclipse occurs near the South Node, intensifying its energy and making it an especially powerful time to break free from outdated habits—including people pleasing, over-giving, and perfectionism. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, meaning it is an analytical and service-oriented sign, but its shadow side often manifests as self-sacrifice, excessive worry, and the tendency to put others before ourselves.
Women, in particular, are conditioned to be people pleasers: agreeable, self-sacrificing, and emotionally available at all times. But, this can lead to resentment and burnout, unhealthy relationships, losing touch with your own needs and desires, and a struggle with setting boundaries due to a fear of disappointing others. The key to breaking free from these self-sabotaging behaviors is self-awareness, which leads to self-trust. This is one of the most impactful benefits of understanding your horoscope!
Although many of us recognize our people-pleasing tendencies, we still struggle to release them. That is where this Virgo full moon comes into play! This lunar eclipse presents a powerful opportunity to shift that pattern once and for all.
What does the Full Moon in Virgo Mean?
Virgo is an extremely grounded earth sign. It can sometimes feel like a celestial slap that brings you right back to reality. Everything in your life becomes clear under this full moon: where you are, what are you going, all the shit you are allowing yourself to put up with, how your fears are controlling you, and, best of all, what needs to change.
At the high road, Virgo is organized and analytical, which is a healthy contrast to Pisces, the season this full moon falls in— while Pisces helps you to vision your future, Virgo can mastermind the practical plans to make those dreams happen. At the low road, however, Virgo can be an over-giver and people pleaser, sacrificing her own needs to prioritize the needs of others—partners, friends, coworkers, family, etc. She is also susceptible to perfectionism and getting bogged down or even stuck in the details.
The shadow side of Virgo can manifest as:
- Constantly prioritizing others’ needs at the expense of your own well-being.
- Feeling responsible for fixing, helping, and managing everything around you.
- Believing that you must be flawless to be worthy of love and validation.
- Over-analyzing all of your decisions to the point of getting stuck and not moving forward.
The Virgo full moon, which lasts from March 12 through March 14, brings illumination and power to these themes—good and bad—and we can look to our horoscopes or natal charts to understand what area of life is being highlighted for us.
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What do the Lunar Eclipse & the South Node Mean?
A lunar eclipse occurs when the Earth blocks the Sun’s light from illuminating the Moon, symbolizing a moment of emotional transformation and necessary endings. They always occur at one of the moon’s nodes—the two points where the Moon’s orbital path crosses the ecliptic. Astrologically, eclipses act as catalysts, pushing us to confront deep-seated patterns we might be avoiding so we can shed old skins and realign with our highest path.
The South Node, where this eclipse is taking place, represents our past, our comfort zone, and the habits we must leave behind to grow. This particular eclipse challenges us to release self-sacrificing tendencies and embrace a healthier, more balanced approach to self-worth, our work, and our daily routines.
On a collective level, this energy supports deep self-reflection, leading to stronger, more authentic relationships and a shift toward healing societal expectations around service, perfection, and emotional labor.
Using this Virgo Full Moon Lunar Eclipse to Break Free From People Pleasing Behaviors
Everything discussed above will be swirling together to create an incredibly potent time to break free from self-sabotaging behaviors such as people-pleasing, over-giving, perfectionism, and self-sacrifice. To summarize, here is everything at work from an astrological perspective:
- Sun in Pisces creates a thematic backdrop of imagination, dreams, sensitive emotion, and closing chapters.
- Full Moon in Virgo brings illumination and clarity to our reality and gives us the power to make changes.
- Lunar Eclipse is a deeply transformative time that brings abrupt and sudden emotional change or breakdowns.
- The South Node acts like a sign, pointing to what exactly it is that needs to be left behind in order for us to grow.
- The final full moon of the Zodiac year brings an additional element of closure, endings, surrender, etc.
This potent time frame acts like a cosmic course corrector. For those of us out of alignment, this can be rough! offering a unique and powerful opportunity to break free from self-sabotaging behaviors.
How to Stop People-Pleasing Using the Full Moon in Virgo
Think of this full moon as a mirror, reflecting back where these patterns have been limiting you. From there, you can use Virgo’s analytical superpower to formulate a plan and draw on the energy of the lunar eclipse at the South Node to break free.
Here is what that can look like:
1. Reflect on Where You’ve Been Over-Giving
As women, we are conditioned to over-give. This is a tool of oppression that keeps us from our full power! During this Virgo full moon portal, ask yourself:
- Where have I been putting others’ needs above my own?
- What fears come up when I consider setting boundaries?
- How can I begin prioritizing my own needs without guilt?
A transits reading can be particularly helpful in understanding what area of life this full moon is focusing on for you.
2. Perform a Release Ritual
Although the word “ritual” might conjure up thoughts of an elaborate ceremony, it can actually be quite simple! In fact, Virgo prefers a simple, grounded ritual over something elaborate and esoteric. The most important part of any ritual is intention, so begin with setting up a sacred space for yourself. It should be clean and tidy, and you can infuse a little extra magic into the space with candles, fresh flowers (chrysanthemums are tied to Virgo), crystals, and burning dried herbs or incense.
Below are a few simple full moon rituals to try for this full moon lunar eclipse. Before you begin, I recommend taking a seat on the ground and taking just 5 minutes to connect with yourself and the Earth. Close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing. Feel the earth, solid beneath you, and envision a tap root growing from the base of your spine into the ground. Allow everything—your thoughts, emotions, worries, fears, etc.—to empty out of you through this root system. Then, envision drawing energy up from the earth and into your body.
When you are grounded and ready, you can do one or all three of the following rituals:
✏️ Journaling: Write a letter to your past self, acknowledging the times you over-gave. This is not a criticism, but an acknowledgement. Express gratitude for your past self and how those habits have served you. Then, outline why prioritizing your own needs is important and how you can practice this moving forward. End with a new commitment to honoring your own needs moving forward.
🔥Burning Ritual: Write down the beliefs you are ready to release (e.g., “I must be liked by everyone” or “My worth depends on how much I do for others”). Take a moment to acknowledge these beliefs and the role they played in your past life. Then, acknowledge that you are releasing those beliefs, as they no longer serve you. With gratitude and intention, safely burn the paper as a symbol of letting go.
✨Energy Cleanse: Take a ritual bath with herbs like rosemary (for clarity), lavender (for self-love), and sea salt (for energetic cleansing). While soaking, envision the bathwater drawing out and dissolving all of the self-sabotaging behaviors you want to let go of: the people pleasing, the perfectionism, the over giving, etc. You can perform the same ritual with a hot shower!
3. Set Boundaries with Confidence
We often struggle with setting boundaries, because we lack confidence in ourselves and are afraid of what other people might think. One way to gain more confidence and clarity in your life is to book a natal chart reading. A reading is like a personalized roadmap or blueprint that shows you exactly what you need to in order to feel fulfilled (even if it looks different from other people), and it can highlight the areas where you struggle.
Once you have a clear understanding of yourself and what you need, you can practice saying “no” without over-explaining. You can give yourself permission to disappoint others if it means staying true to yourself, because you know what “true to yourself” looks like. Remember, boundaries are not walls; they are guidelines for healthy relationships.
Final Thoughts: The Journey is Just Beginning
Remember, breaking free from people pleasing is not a one-and-done deal. Although the full moon lunar eclipse in Virgo is a turning point—a cosmic push to break free from self-sacrifice and step into empowered, self-trusting authenticity—it is also just the beginning! You can use the energy of this full moon to kickstart that journey with power and purpose, but it takes work to keep going!
Letting go of people-pleasing doesn’t mean you stop caring about others—it means you start caring about yourself just as much. Each decision to prioritize your well-being strengthens your ability to trust yourself and live more authentically. Trust that the right people in your life will respect your boundaries, and that those who don’t were never meant to stay.
Are you ready to align with your true path? Book an astrology reading to navigate your transformation with clarity.
